I’m dating again — for couple friends.
People are constantly on the look-out for someone they can connect with in relation to where they are in their lives at that time. This time is: Couple Time.
I have to admit, when I meet a couple that’s in love or recently fallen in love or just high-functioning, I’m totally stoked. And yes, of course its because of all the warm fuzzies that go along with being in love, but honestly, I can’t help but immediately think, “Couple Friend Potential!”
Set the Scene:
You meet up at bar because it’s a neutral location. You laugh, share jokes, talk about how long you’ve been together, where you met, your favorite things to do together. You already have inside jokes about how Sally does this or Johnny does that and how you’re so much like that totally and stuff. Then the night ends. You wonder, “who should reach out to who? Do I facebook them? Will I look too eager if I’m already thinking of the next time we can meet up? Will it be at the new wing of the Art Museum that I haven’t seen yet? Can I combine couple friends or would that spoil the chemistry of the couple-friendship-soup that we’re working on?”
Appreciation for my already established friends still holds strong. But many of them have moved on to different places in their lives. Most have moved onto parenthood, some to divorcehood, some to God-Knows-Where, some haven’t moved on since they were 21 and some quite literally have moved.
I can’t help but imagine what kind of people Sir Optimization and I will be dating at the different stages of life down the road.
- Parent friends (for the distant future),
- Homeowner friends
- Honda Fit friends
- Horse ranch friends
- Famous friends
- Famous Blogger friends
Although as much as I like to project, perhaps I should stick with the right now. I have some couple friends in the pipeline. Maybe we’ll get to the point where we’re so comfortable with each other that we can have dinner parties at each others houses and not be judged for our family-focused-living room adorned with pictures of ourselves and other people we love (our parents, siblings, friends, Jason Bateman, etc.) We’ll irresponsibly drink on a Sunday night and confess our fears of being a bad parent, moving to the suburbs and thwarting our addiction to Nordstrom’s Rack.
It’s tough out there, but I think we’re ready to start dating.
